Online dating is the latest cultural process that people use to find potential partners. I know that dating sites have not been around for a very long time. However, the modern era of online dating didn’t begin until 1995. During the mid to late 90s, the internet dating scene was not a big hit with the masses. It wasn’t until the mid-2000s until dating sites made inroads.
I remember way back in 2005 when social media sites were first starting to emerge. People were slowly finding out about social media networks. Once they figured out how this technology worked they started to use it as a means to meet other people. Eventually, the culture caught up with the technology and everyone was using getting hooked to the world of online communication. By this time, the culture had caught up with the technology and millions of people were slowly being drawn into the online world of romance. At the time, I knew that this was going to become something big.
People were still figuring out how to intermingle and connect with each other, online. Like me, they figured it out. About 2010 online dating sites were in full swing. The process of online dating had become a standard part of our culture. In 2014 it had become the norm for dating and finding relationships.
Now that online dating is a normal part of our lives, a lot of people are not sure if they still want it around. I for one am in that group. You see, online dating might have changed the way people find love for the better – but it also brought along some unwanted problems. Has online dating ruined us and the way we find love? I would say maybe it has. I want us to take a deeper look at this process, to discover how some people are being turned off by it.
The Loss of Real Connections
Before online dating became a big deal, people met each other face to face. In the past, everyone had direct interactions when meeting a potential partner. As a guy, I know that I had to get up enough courage to ask a girl out or someone I knew would introduce me to her. Blind dates, going out to the clubs and even hooking up with co-workers is a common way that people meet each other.
Online dating has not completely stopped these direct interactions. However, they have significantly slowed them down. One of the biggest complaints that people have against online dating, is the ability to meet people in person. Dating on the internet limits that personal reaction that takes place when people meet. While pictures can substitute for seeing a person up close and personal, people still want the real thing. I don’t blame them. I like staring into a female’s eyes when I first meet her or noticing her body language when I ask her for her number. Maybe, I’m just an old fashioned guy but I just like the little things about meeting a female in person.
The Illusion of Perfection
Online dating sites are designed to put people in the best light possible. Profile users can alter their pictures, create appealing content and make themselves into just about anyone they want to be. However, when their online profiles don’t measure or match up to reality; then the people they meet will be disappointed. I know this to be true because I had doctored my past profiles up with glorified pictures and content laden with lies.
People come to dating sites with the desire to find Mr. or Mrs. Right. They want their dream person to be a certain way and if they are not – then they are quickly dismissed. Online dating creates the illusion that people can find their idea of perfection. A person will probably not find what they are looking for unless they get rid of their unrealistic expectations.
Too many Choices
The world of online dating provides people with a lot of potential partners. Since there is virtually an unlimited choice of partners; people can have too much of a good thing. As a result, internet daters are exposed to a lot of people. At first, this might seem like it’s fun, but the reality is that people tend to believe they can always find someone better. The reality is that this is usually not the case. Once again, most people are deluding themselves into finding that perfect person. I also know this to be true from personal experience.
Keep in mind that online dating is not going anywhere. I Remember that people were getting bored with the bar scene, going to the club and meeting people where they worked and went to school. So, online dating was exciting and different. That is one major reason why it became so big. However, its appeal is going to change.
So, I’ll ask the question once again: has online dating ruined us? The answer is no that it did not but it certainly has taken some key things out of the dating process. I know that people are going to continue to use online dating sites well into the future. They just won’t rely on them as much.
Dating networks will become more sophisticated. While this is important, people will still want to connect with a real-life individual. The future of this technology will just set the stage for an introduction but the actual dating process will continue like it always did before. Two people meeting in person and taking the time getting to know each other.